Let me love you anyway…..
Humans are an amazing happenstance in the world I think, but truth be told we are also a complicated mess.
See as humans we do this thing, this thing where we try to be perfect. We hide our shit, we front and make the world seem rosy, shiny and sparkly.
I know, because I did it for a long time.
I didn’t want to be myself fully and show all of my quirks, weirdness and mistakes for fear of judgement or what have you. I thought I wasn’t lovable that way.
I thought I had to be shiny and easy and have no opinions. The lies we tell ourselves are irresistible that way.
The truth though, is …
Vulnerability = Strength and Courage
Pride and Stubbornness = Weakness
When my life seemed perfect I attracted all the wrong people because I wasn’t showing who I really was. I was feeding my fears….. When I let my guard down and allowed all of me to shine through …. I was unforgettable.
I found my tribe and a group of people who took me as I was, in all my nitty gritty griminess and my sunny bright radiance. All of it was embraced and I have never looked back since. The lesson I learnt was simple, when I extend grace, authenticity and truth I can win more battles and break down more walls than I had ever thought.
So now, when people come to my life in honesty and authenticity, I let them in.
When people pretend things never happened and don’t own their s**t, their flaws, mistakes and fuck ups …. it ‘s really hard for me to support, respect or even let them in.
When someone says … “ Hey, you did such and such and it hurt me or made me mad or I fucked up and I know it but I miss you, think about you, love you or want to have a conversation about it “…. then I let you in.
Because you are owning your feelings. You are also giving me an opportunity to own my part of it instead of what most normally do which is run to a mutual friend and talk about “the issue”.
When someone does this, I let you in. Because you showed me your truth and now we can build something stronger.
